
I have taught Bran from a very early age to be independent and responsible. As a single mom I had my hands full with just managing Ty's CF.
As Bran gets older he makes it known that he is still a member of this family. A big one for Bran is that I need to spend time with him because I spent the day with Ty at the CF clinic.
As a general rule, Bran gets why I focus so much attention on Ty but that doesn't mean he has to like it. (He just whispered to Tyler to get started on his medicine before I start yelling. Ha! Ha!). We acknowledge and address his feelings and I encourage him to have an open dialogue with me about what its like to be the "healthy child" in a CF family.
Recently we were in the hospital for more than a week and it really hit home for Bran. He genuinely missed his brother and was quite concerned about his health. He even told me that he felt bad for Ty having to get so many shots.
I'll leave you with a perspective from someone who has CF and mentions how it must have affected her "healthy" brother growing up (Check out Stacey Bene's Confessions of a Cyster):
One thing that still makes me sad about this period of time is all of the time my stupid disease stole from my brothers life...this equated to him being unintentionally ignored much of the time. Everybody always said how great Jason was at entertaining himself. Honestly, I don't think he had a choice. There was only so much attention to go around. My parents did nothing wrong...I just took a lot of time and attention to care for... Honestly, it must have really sucked for him :-(Now its your turn, tell us how you deal with the issues that come with having both a healthy child(ren) and sick one(s).